Azalee Ahrendes: Sounds like he has good intentions regarding remodeling but lacks follow through. Here's what I'd recommend: 1) Forget about suicide. Forget about divorce. Neither one solves a thing!2) Focus on one room at a time and don't tackle anything else on until that one is absolutely, positively done. I would say the kitchen is the room to complete first.3) When remodeling, do what you can but don't let a lack of skill or knowledge slow the project. If you're intimidated by something (electrical stuff, maybe) or hate to do it (drywall repairs, maybe) hire it out. Save your time and energy for the things you can do and pay a pro to do the rest. (No doubt he'll say, "But I can do this stuff--why pay someone else?" Sure he can, but if it isn't getting done maybe it's worth the expense to move things along....)As for garage storage, here's your 5 step plan. Step #1, in my experience, is by far the most important!http://www.thisoldhouse.com/toh/article/0,,574453,...! I suppose I should print this answer out and post it on my own bulletin board........Show more
Georgia Dees: You poor thing. I lived like that for about 7 years. I finally started clearing stuff out a little at a time. He didn't notice most of what I threw out. Pick one room and try to finish it and get it cleaned up. Throw the stuff out on trash day so he can't go retreive it from the trash can. It can be really depressing living in a construction zone. Give him his areas he can junk up and store his sh*t and let him know the rest of the house is going to be cleaned up and the projects are going to be completed. A little at a time you can do this. Do not allow him to start any other projects until the current ones are done. Good luck. It will probably be up to you to clean up the clutter....Show more
Everette Rovinsky: Well, I sure as hell am not going to give sympathy to a person that threatens suicide or to leave because of half-done remodeling pr! ojects. That is manipulative behavior and is very toxic for a! relationship. Not to mention, reveals that you yourself are unstable.Also, it was most likely a mutual choice to remodel your house. So if you are unhappy with the progress of each project then get off your butt and finish it yourself. Don't try to manipulate the man to do your bidding by threatening harm upon yourself, thats just dumb. In addition, you guys did this to yourselves by working on stuff here and there as you please. The only way to really get that kind of stuff finished is to tackle it one project at a time.As for his pack-ratting and lack of attention toward the projects these are things you will have to find a compromise on. If he will not get rid of his old school papers then you need to come up with a solution that will ease both parties. You could get some organizing bins that you could throw all of his papers in and find some space in the attic or something. I'm guessing it only drives you crazy that he has all this stuff, and he is probably jus! t fine with keeping all of that stuff. However, it is your house too so you should have some say over it. If he is an intense pack-rat it could be sign of a very severe case of OCD, but those types keep all kinds of stuff from used tissues to belly lint.If he is unresponsive to any solution you have then let him know something is going to get done whether or not he wants to be a part of it, but take care not to over step your boundries. Its not your place to get rid of his personal things. Remember marriage is about compromise....Show more
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